Expectations of Behavior

Article - Expectations of Behavior for Tavern slaves

The purpose of this article is to offer a sense of your expections as Tavern property. I am going to attempt to keep this as concise as possible so I will use a list and brief descriptions. If anything is left unclear, you are expected to bring it to my attention. The most important rule of thumb for me is that you understand that the value you bring is respect, availability, and awareness.

What I am listing is not an excuse for being inappropriate. Do not assume that this article is your path toward belittling the ideas of free without reproach. Be available, aware of the Tavern and be mindful of the respect expected of you toward the free who stop in.

There are times when I may be privy to information you are not. Fairness is in evaluation of a situation, not attempting to create the illusion of equality at the cost of leadership.

Enjoying your time

The most important expectation I have is that you enjoy your time with us. That is not to imply that I feel I owe an obligation of your happiness. Understand the difference. Come to me when you feel a consistent negative association with entering the Tavern so we both can assess why. It is important for me to understand where you are at.

The sanctity of the Tavern

The Tavern is in place to provide growth to all, and a relaxing environment. Those who are free hold a station where respect is yielded to, despite your personal thoughts and experiences.

The sanctity of the Tavern is in the atmosphere it brings to all. No one is permitted to speak negatively concerning a named channel or person. We will not thrive on a collection of mundane serves, or as a place of gossip. If you are compelled to bitch, find someone appropriate to privately message. I am not one of those people. If you start off expressing something negative about another channel or person I will shut you down quicker than you can type your next sentence. I don't give a fuck, I promise. I don't speak about others, and I don't want my personal space invaded with the highschool bullshit.

The exception to that last peice is one of necessity. If there is a situation which can promote unjust harm, you are expected to come talk to me. I need to know that there is a potential for harm or I won't have the conversation.

Entering the Tavern & Greeting

There is no need to request permission to enter the Tavern. This is your home, and you are welcome to enter. I would prefer to keep the mentality that we remove the interference of conversation, then to require the free an obligation tied to my property's appearance.

Greet responsibly. Pause, see if conversation is rampant and wave to all silently in one quick line referencing that you do not wish to interrupt. Use your judgment, I don't care how this is done as much as I care that you respect those free who are holding conversation. If there does not appear to be a discussion going on, feel free to greet. When there are only a few people feel free to offer special consideration of them by referencing their name, but greeting is not to be a volley of 17 lines to get them all out. Use your head and pay attention about atmosphere being of higher importance than protocol.

Co-Channeling & roaming

I do not have an issue with you co-channeling (joining multiple channels) or roaming to other channels and not spending every minute in the Tavern. There are a couple ideas to keep in mind while you are signed on with a nickname referencing the Tavern as having ownership of you:

You must have the permission of the other channel to be co-channeling.
You may not speak poorly of the channel or members of the channel in a main window of another chat channel. This is direspectful and inappropriate. Private messages when you need to speak to someone you are close to is your perogative. I suggest discretion where you feel in your gut its warranted.
You must be aware when in the Tavern at all times. If the free need to alert you that they are speaking to you, then you need to refrain from co-channeling.

Making yourself available

When you are not able to be aware and participate in the Tavern you must either receive permission and identify this in your nickname or ask to leave. In urgent situations you may forgo the need for permissions so long as this is not a frequent event. If you have something personal in your life where this may happen often, we need to discuss.

If you are unwilling to offer me why I should consider your request for an exception to frequently be unavailable without permission, then I reserve the right to consider giving you to another channel. This is not a threat, and I am not going to play guessing games. Your behavior, attitude, and value offer a lot of information for me to evaluate.

Serves

While in the Gorean Tavern it is an expectation that you will help facilitate an atmosphere of a tavern. People will wander in whether they have experience or not with Gor. If they are free men and women, then there is an expectation to express yourself as the property of the Gorean Tavern. It is not your place to discern the worthiness of an individual and evaluate whether they diserve your attentions.

The way in which we will do this is going to be as least invasive as possible while still offering the experience. Offering service in the form of roleplaying as a tavern wench and fetching drinks should be done by making note that you are available from where you are.

Ex: /me looks around the tavern to make sure no one is in need

We are not going to approach people individually and interrupt conversation for the service requests. On that note there is also a balance, and when there is a good flowing conversation between the free then there should not be a flurry of these as well from every girl in the Tavern. Be cognizant and appropriate.

Another useful tool we will be using is the command "Hand Check" when this is spoken in the Tavern by any free it is your responsibility to describe where you are and currently what you are doing. This is not meant to be graphic, it is meant to give the free a way to see who is available or who is attending to someone specific. The only time you need not reply is when your nick offers the awareness you are away or in pms.

Engaging in Discussions

There are many frequent discussions in the Tavern. The atmosphere is one of singing, entertaining, and the enjoyment of those around us. Because of the number of conversations that happen it is fine for you to participate.

If there seems to be a discussion based on a particular topic that the free are debating, or diving into at an indepth level then you are expected to ask permission to engage in conversation. Use your head, and be appropriate.

Private Messaging - When allowed ... how to mark away

You are permitted to hold private conversation with anyone. This implies conversation only, see alcoves below for more on sexually driven conversation. When you are in private messages with someone your first message to them is if you can mark yourself in private message with their name.

Ex: easy{Tavern}`pmThalin

If you are not permitted, then you may mark simply with `pm. Expect that if you are questioned by someone who is a member of leadership in the tavern you will be expected to offer up who you are speaking to.

Silks - Color schemes

Silks are the adornment of a slave. There is a color scheme often used to denote the quality of a slave. The Tavern does not comply with a "karate-belt" type approach to slave silks. This is going to be a hard change for some of you to digest and be mindful of.

The reason behind this approach is that a person has a passion and expression in life that is them. I believe that means it is more appropriate to take a view of right fit. I would rather right fit someone, and help them along their path to self expression than to force someone through misrepresentations of themselves in order to get to who they are. Our Tavern is about growth, and each day we will attempt to help improve your understanding of self as it will offer us a better value in you.

Here are the constants when it comes to silk colors that the Tavern will acknowledge:

White represents a limited expectation of them for various reasons
Yellow silks are the typical (read, not only) representation of the normal Tavern wench
Red silks will represent passion slaves

Alcoves - Sexually driven private messaging

While on an IRC server within the Gorean community you will notice plenty of sexually explicit conversations which happen with kajira. This will also be handled in a fairly unique way. All slaves except passion slaves will work off an approved list of people they may play with in a sexually driven conversation in private messages. If you do not have specific approval to hold these types of conversations then you are not allowed.

If you would like to make changes, or someone wishes to request this approval then a conversation needs to happen with Thalin. This helps to provide a better governence of time not available in channel, harassment, and compatible traits so that you aren't "ruined" from a experience we might expect from some individuals.

These approval lists are unique per individual. Because one girl has the approval for a person does not mean that another does unless expressly requested and permission is granted.

The exception to this process will be only reserved for passion slaves which are designated by their adornment of red silks. These girls are here for the pleasure of mean with the drive and expression of self that lends to a varied and extensive sexual desire. These girls will work off of a "black list" of those individuals who are not permitted. Otherwise, a pleasure slave should not be refused.

Punishments - Essay based, and restrictions from the Tavern

The primary inspiration for the Tavern is one of growth. However, there are going to be moments when the expectation of behavior in my mind is not met, despite your thoughts. When those who lead the Tavern see this, you can expect one of two choices primarily. You can expect an essay on a topic, or the restriction from the Tavern for x number of days. It will not typically be your choice, however there is the recognition of situations where essays are not effective, and expressing this may offer you the option of restriction to the channel.

The purpose of punishment is to change behavior. Jumping into a private message and representing role play that I am whipping your ass is a blasphemous joke. Trust me, when I say I am pissed, that is not the path I will take.

How to handle harassment

In the situation of harassment, you are to immediately cease contact with the person you are speaking to until there is resolution which is agreed upon by Thalin. Alert Thalin or someone of the Tavern of this immediately. If there is the potential for that harassment to continue on to another victim, you may seek help from another free man who happens to be at the Tavern. If this pertains to a personal situation, discretion is warranted over the inappropriate negative discussions with those who do not need to be involved. We have no intention to irresponsibly subject you to harmful situations whether it pertains to your physical being or your psyche.

Personal information

Your personal information including name, address, phone number, Skype contact name, and even email address is not a required submission for Tavern ownership. Do not allow a single person, including those empowered as leadership members of the Tavern to say otherwise. You are not permitted to offer a single piece of personal information to Thalin as well if that is your decision not to share it, no matter how drunk and pushy the bastard gets. Point him to this post as a "note to self to back the fuck off."

Inspite of being humorous, I am serious about allowing you the priviledge of keeping your offline information separate and private to you if that is your wish.

Role-playing

Role-playing is a fun and creative way to expressive yourself in a text chat driven medium. It will not supercede the honest and righteous path of leadership or the Gorean Philosophy. Do not expect to roleplay your ass out of shit you get yourself into.

Any questions on the above expectations of behavior, or additions to topics which lack clarity and belong in this list, please see Thalin.

I love you all,

~Thalin